We live in a fast paced world. One were money determines your status and competition gets you to the top. That is, if you play fairly. This then also creates an atmosphere of constant competition with everything and everyone. We are competing against that guy that drives a faster car, a guy that has a better computer, a guy that has a hotter girlfriend and the guy who has the biggest physique.
Why do we do this, what is it that drives us to compete with someone and not just be content with what we have? Why can’t you be happy with your reliable car and your physique? Has life become such a race to see who can have the most? Or is it something that comes and goes with age? If I think back, at primary school it was to see who can get the best marks.
Then high school it was to see who could be the coolest and have the hottest girl in school, then varsity was an apparent “no-care” phase, but actually we were competing to see who could care the least, then we were comparing cars, incomes, assets, whatever you can think of. Does this mean that it never ends? Does it just get more expensive as you get older?
Or am I looking at this the wrong way? Is the competition the driving force to get a new job, and invest your money better? Does it inspire you to work hard to get what you want? I suppose it all depends on what you are competing for.
If you are the guy that’s always comparing cars and toys then you will never be on top, you will be behind someone every step of the way, your flashy car will be old in two years, and your “gadget” will be a relic in 6 months. Similarly if you are dating someone for her looks, chances are you will be disappointed.
My conclusion then, is that competing is good, if used correctly. Learn to pick your competitors and competitions. Stop competing with the petty and flashy folks; instead compete with someone that will enrich you as a person. Invest instead of spend, or spend on some kind of asset! Don’t get caught up in the hype.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t indulge every once in a while. After all we are humans, and being praised for something once in a while hasn’t hurt anybody.